relationships – Leadership Cohort https://joh.globalimmerse.org A Global Immersion Site Sun, 09 Mar 2025 22:03:11 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.1 https://i0.wp.com/joh.globalimmerse.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/tgip_symbol.png?fit=22%2C32&ssl=1 relationships – Leadership Cohort https://joh.globalimmerse.org 32 32 230786137 My Difficult to Narrow Down Values https://joh.globalimmerse.org/2025/02/27/my-difficult-to-narrow-down-values/ https://joh.globalimmerse.org/2025/02/27/my-difficult-to-narrow-down-values/#comments Fri, 28 Feb 2025 03:52:08 +0000 https://joh.globalimmerse.org/?p=2022 Continue reading My Difficult to Narrow Down Values]]> I found it hard to narrow it down to just five values, but here they are:

Authenticity
Relationships/Connection
Integrity
Creativity
The inherent value of every human being

When I violate authenticity, it’s usually because I hesitate to fully express my feelings (especially in relationships) out of fear of overreacting or being misunderstood. I also tend to mask my true self in social situations when I feel uncomfortable—either by becoming overly goofy or shutting down completely.

When I violate my value of relationships and connection, it often looks like withdrawing when I feel unappreciated, misunderstood, or even lonely and insecure, rather than voicing my needs or reaching out. I also sometimes avoid conflict instead of addressing it directly.

With integrity, there are times when I’m caught between being honest and keeping the peace, and I might choose to avoid conflict rather than speaking up. If I’m being really honest, there have also been moments in my life when I’ve hidden behaviors I’m not proud of.

I love being creative, but when life gets busy, it’s often one of the first things I push to the back burner—and I think that violates this value.

While I deeply believe in the absolute value of all humans—that God loves every person and has created them with unique talents, gifts, and abilities—I can also be judgmental at times and write off people who frustrate or annoy me. Like Nina said last week, when I’m not valuing myself, I also struggle more to value others.

]]> https://joh.globalimmerse.org/2025/02/27/my-difficult-to-narrow-down-values/feed/ 6 2022 So Many Questions https://joh.globalimmerse.org/2024/06/04/so-many-questions/ https://joh.globalimmerse.org/2024/06/04/so-many-questions/#respond Tue, 04 Jun 2024 20:01:24 +0000 https://joh.globalimmerse.org/?p=1827 Continue reading So Many Questions]]> I appreciate the intentionality of the tool for conflict mapping and find a desire to explore this more fully in the days to come. For me, one of the things that came to the surface was a basic question of what constitutes a conflict? As I looked back over the past few years I noticed that there were challenging relationships that came to mind and yet many of these do not impact my daily life today. Am I in conflict with people who are walking different paths in terms of theology, beliefs, practices, and ideologies if these paths don’t cross on a regular basis?

 

Can I be in conflict with someone I no longer see?

Am I in conflict with individuals or communities that run in different circles?

How might I stay open to repairing relationships while balancing this with the energy to be in the present relationships that I walk in each day?

 

I suppose the reality that I am asking these questions might indicate something stirring within and yet I also notice the need to discern how I use time and energy. When do I actively reengage with those from the past? How do I do this with open hands and an open heart that is truly rooted in love and not simply the desire to change this person? Is it ok to have a desire for the person to be encountered with a truth or new perspective I have experienced? Is it ok to let go of a relationship and move on in life?

 

Can conflict mapping be done without a context of regular relationship? Can it be applied to past conflict or just present relational conflicts?

 

Thoughts?

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